00:00:00: Introduction
00:00:54: Dan Siegel
00:01:24: Alternate options to ‘busy’
00:02:08: Optimistic phrases
00:02:44: Difficult phrases
00:04:14: A helpful quote
00:04:44: A associated episode
00:05:11: Last ideas
Title Surname: Hello, my title’s Sarah, and on this Squiggly Profession Shortcut, I’ll be speaking about why I feel we must always ban the phrase ‘busy’. After I ask folks to explain their week at work in a single phrase, just about 90% of individuals will say, “Busy”. It is our default, it is our go-to phrase now to explain what work looks like. However it’s fairly a obscure time period, and being busy can imply a number of various things. And I feel after we say busy, it would not actually assist us with what we would do in another way, or do extra of the identical. So, we need to be extra particular. If we’ll use a phrase that helps us to mirror, that helps us to be extra related, and helps us to get higher on the work that we do, I feel we need to problem ourselves to transcend ‘busy’.
We additionally know from the work of a psychologist, known as Dan Siegel, that if we need to work with phrases, we have to title them to tame them. I all the time actually like that phrase, actually memorable, “Title it to tame it”. So, if you wish to change these phrases, if busy for you means really you are having a very troublesome week and you are feeling actually overwhelmed, the extra particular we might be, the extra probability we have now of working with these phrases in a constructive and helpful method. So, slightly than saying ‘busy’, perhaps as you are watching this now, assume, “If I wasn’t allowed to make use of ‘busy’, how would I describe my work or this week in a single phrase?” Possibly you are feeling ‘confused’, perhaps you are feeling ‘overloaded’, perhaps it is ‘progress’. So, you can begin off with ‘busy’, however really, after we dive into what busy means, what that appears and looks like for all of us, it is in all probability fairly totally different. It may be optimistic, it is perhaps impartial, or it is perhaps a extra destructive, rather more troublesome phrase. However the extra particular we’re, we are able to then do one thing with these phrases.
So, as soon as you have acquired your phrases, lets say it was ‘progress’, we are able to then work with these phrases. So, if it looks like a optimistic phrase, it’s value simply pausing for a minute to note, “Effectively, what am I doing properly? If I’ve made actually good progress this week, what has helped me? What might I do once more subsequent week? What are the repeated habits which have been actually useful for me?” in order that we’re intentional about sort of persevering with to create an atmosphere and methods of working that actually work for us. So, in case your phrase is a very good one, why is that? Ask your self that why query.
In case your phrase is a more difficult one, let’s take a few examples, lets say it is ‘overwhelming’. I think about all of us have weeks the place we really feel overwhelmed. What that then would possibly do is to immediate you to ask a query like, “Okay, I do really feel overwhelmed. What is the one factor that issues most at present? Or what is the one factor that issues most this week?” And so, we drive ourselves to prioritise and to show that overwhelm into, “Effectively, I’ve acquired to make some selections. I’m overwhelmed, there is perhaps various amount, however I’ve acquired to make some selections”. So, perhaps we simply ask ourselves some coach-ourselves questions to assist us to maneuver ahead.
In case you’re feeling ‘confused’, barely totally different to overwhelmed, confused, perhaps you are unsure the place to start out, otherwise you really feel such as you’re second-guessing perhaps different folks or what you are meant to be doing, you would possibly ask your self as a substitute, “What’s going to assist me to create readability? Would a dialog assist me to create readability? Would a thoughts map, a one-minute thoughts map assist me to create readability? Would simply writing down what I do not know, doing a little bit of a don’t-know pocket book, would that assist me to create readability?” And ask your self, “What has helped me to create readability up to now which may have been helpful?” as a result of we have all had these moments the place we really feel a bit confused about work. And so, it’ll encourage you to ask some totally different questions, but additionally take into consideration the instruments and the methods that may show you how to. We do not need to keep confused for too lengthy; we do not need to keep overwhelmed this week and subsequent week and the week after.
So, there’s an incredible quote from a thinker, which I all the time like, which is, “The phrases that we use body how we see the world”. And so, I feel by simply asking ourselves this query, How’s my work been this week in a single phrase?” after which desirous about, “How do I work with that phrase to do extra of what is good, and to perhaps make some modifications if issues are usually not working for me?” it’s a rather more helpful method of studying and rising in our Squiggly Careers. If you wish to dive a bit deeper right into a Squiggly Careers episode, episode 29, so that’s in the beginning of the 500-plus episodes that we have completed. So, I will be fascinated to listen to if any of you do then take heed to that one, whether or not we’re very totally different or similar to how we’re at present. Yeah, episode 29 is all about managing stress. So, circuitously on busy, but when your one phrase maybe is ‘stress’ or I really feel ‘careworn’, that is perhaps an excellent one to dive into.
I hope you discovered that useful, and please do electronic mail us, we’re helenandsarah@squigglycareers.com, in the event you’ve acquired any suggestions, or if there’s any concepts you have acquired for squiggly shortcuts that might be helpful for you.
